The Invisible Losses Book Club
A virtual space to explore the grief nobody talks about
What is the Invisible Losses Book Club?
It's a free monthly book club for women navigating losses that don't fit into neat categories—the grief of relationship endings, identity shifts, futures that never happened, and versions of ourselves we had to let go.
We read fiction and memoir that captures these invisible losses with honesty, complexity, and zero platitudes. Then we gather virtually to discuss what resonated, what questions came up, and what helped us see our own experiences more clearly.
This isn't a therapy group—it's a book club. But the books we choose do therapeutic work. They witness the losses we carry that nobody else seems to see or that society as a whole struggles to talk about openly.
What We’re Reading Next
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by Ottessa Moshfegh
Discussion Date: Thursday, November 6, 2025 at 7 PM ET
Format: Virtual via Google Meet (link sent upon registration)This darkly funny, devastating novel follows a young woman who attempts to sleep away a year of her life in the wake of losing her parents, her relationship, and any sense of who she's supposed to be. It's about grief that looks like numbness, loss that looks like nothing, and the invisible work of trying to disappear when staying present feels impossible.
If you've ever felt disconnected from your own life after a major loss, this book will feel uncomfortably familiar—and worth discussing together.
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by Dani Shapiro
Discussion Date: Wednesday, December 3, 2025 at 7 PM ET
Format: Virtual via Google Meet (link sent upon registration)A memoir about the moment Shapiro discovered, through a DNA test, that the man she thought was her father wasn't her biological father—and the unraveling of her family identity, her understanding of her parents, and the story she'd been told her entire life. A profound exploration of loss that doesn't involve death, but the death of a narrative.
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by Jenny Offill
Discussion Date: Wednesday, January 14, 2026 at 7 PM ET
Format: Virtual via Google Meet (link sent upon registration)A slim, stunning novel about a marriage under strain and the grief of early motherhood—the loss of creative identity, the difficulty of adjusting to a life you thought you wanted, and the invisible toll of becoming someone new. Offill captures the fragments of a life in transition with sharp, honest prose.
Future Books: We'll announce additional selections after January. Have a book recommendation that explores invisible losses? Submit your suggestion here!
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What to Expect
Monthly meetings—usually on the first or second Wednesday in the evening (Eastern time)
Virtual format via Google Meet—join from anywhere!
Discussion-based, not lecture-based—your insights matter, and no one is the expert here.
Meetings are capped at 12 individuals to foster an intimate, not too overwhelming discussion environment
Facilitated by Kim Jaso, LMHC, a therapist specializing in complicated grief and invisible losses, with a background in literature and writing
This is a book club, not a therapy session. We’ll discuss characters, craft, scenes, moments that surprised us or showed us something new, things we disagreed with or liked vs. disliked—but it’s not a space for processing raw emotions or therapeutic support.
Safe space for honest conversations about the messy, non-linear reality or representation of grief from other folks who “get it”
No pressure to have it all figured out—show up wherever you are in your process… and however far along you got into the book. 😉
Who This is For
This book club is for you if:
You're navigating an invisible loss—a breakup, life transition, identity shift, future that didn't happen—and want to explore it through literature
You're curious about grief that doesn't fit traditional narratives
You're tired of oversimplified stories about "healing" and "moving on"
You appreciate books that reflect complexity and don't wrap everything up neatly
You're looking for thoughtful discussion with other readers who bring openness and curiosity
You don't need to have experienced a specific loss to join. Genuine curiosity and openness to discussion and willingness to not engage with platitudes about grief are what matter here. Some of us are in the thick of grief. Some of us are years past it. Some of us are just curious about these themes in literature. All of that is welcome!
We just ask you be willing to read thoughtfully and show up honestly.
Registration
This book club is free. If you find value in it and want to support this resource, there's an optional suggested donation of $5-20, but payment is not required to participate.
Register for one book or all three—your choice. You'll receive separate Google Meet links and discussion guides for each session you register for.
We hope to see you there! Feel free to reach out to kim@kimjasotherapy.com with any questions.
About the Facilitator
Kim Jaso, LMHC is a licensed therapist in New York specializing in complicated grief, relationship endings, and the invisible losses that don't fit traditional grief narratives. She offers virtual therapy throughout New York state and created the Invisible Losses Book Club as a free community resource for women navigating loss that others don't always see or validate.
Prior to becoming a therapist, Kim spent several years as a creative writer of fiction and nonfiction, editor, and content marketer, and still hopes to publish a book someday. In joining the Invisible Losses Book Club, you’ll be supported with expertise from someone who loves reading, writing, and talking about complicated grief with a touch of humor, levity, and groundedness.
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